There was supposed to be a visit yesterday - you can read the details below.
I called the bio mom today (as requested by the case worker), and after almost giving up because she never answered the phone, she finally answered.
She spoke to Lil J for a little while, even though I know he really had no clue. He kept referring to Mommy, and then saying things about me. Whatever.
She then asked to speak to me and she tells me that she will be submitting a formal request to the courts (well, her lawyer will be) at the next court date to have him moved to her state of resisdence.
Side note, he was removed in my current state, she was "in between" addresses and now is living in a neighboring state. I googled it, and driving it is about a 3.25 hour DRIVE. Using public transportation (I figured it out) would probably take about 4+ hours each way.
She is claiming that showing up to visits (using public transportation) places an unfair financial burden on her. Since the case is in my state, all visits have to be done here. She claims the distance is not fair as well.
Heck, I did not tell you to move to the end of the state.
She says that she WOULD see her kid as much as she could, but she can not afford it, and if he was closer to her, she would see him often. She says this even though she has made NO attempt at all to make visits. Like I said, she has not seen him since the end of Feb.
I know I am rambling, I am not even sure the point of the post. I am just so upset that this is possible. Will a judge really remove a child in a VERY stable home just make it easier for the mom?
It is killing me to think he could leave under these circumstances.
EDIT TO ADD:
I just wanted to put it out there that going into foster care, I knew there would be a possibility that kids are returned to parents. But this situation would be totally different. Lil J would still be foster care, just in a different state. So, he would be placed in a home that may or may not be a good fit for him.
If the placement is not a good fit (like his previous placement was not), then he would be moved again. This is just breaking my heart.