Personally, I think it SUCKS that 35 is considered "Advanced Maternal Age". I for one seriously think that I am just starting out in my life. Yes, I have had lots of great things before this day, and have loved each and every one of them.
I am just saying that at 35, I think I still am pretty young. I know that when I was 20 or so, 35 seemed OLD, but now that I am there, doesn't seem so bad.
So, there you have it - according to the land of OBGYN, I am an old lady.
Oh, yeah - and hello 28 weeks :)
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
I am evil
Lil J has been cranky all morning. Well, today is visit day. So, as cranky as he has been - I have actually been someehat happy about it.
He is always a great kid, mostly well behaved. But, why can't he be cranky for his visit with his mother???
I was kinda happy that he would probably still be cranky when the visit rolled around at noon.
Well, I guess Karma just kicked me in the ass. Visit was cancelled for today and now I am stuck with the cranky kid.
Lucky for me, Colin seems to be the cranky remedy - how, I have no idea. But, he is calm now while he lays with Colin watching TV. It could be that Lil J is watching TV in the middle of the day (something I do not allow), or that he is chilling with Colin. But, either way, he is quiet now. Well, at least for now :)
He is always a great kid, mostly well behaved. But, why can't he be cranky for his visit with his mother???
I was kinda happy that he would probably still be cranky when the visit rolled around at noon.
Well, I guess Karma just kicked me in the ass. Visit was cancelled for today and now I am stuck with the cranky kid.
Lucky for me, Colin seems to be the cranky remedy - how, I have no idea. But, he is calm now while he lays with Colin watching TV. It could be that Lil J is watching TV in the middle of the day (something I do not allow), or that he is chilling with Colin. But, either way, he is quiet now. Well, at least for now :)
Monday, July 6, 2009
Passed the 3 Hour Glucose Test !!!
I am seriously hating calls from the OB and visits there as well. Every time I hear from them, it is something else.
I had my first growth scan last week due to the marginal insertion of the cord. Growth was fine, but have high fluid. Doc said that the fluid level could be high due to high sugar levels. Since I had my sugar test the same day, he knew we would just have to wait for those results.
Well, I found out today that I passed - yipee!. But, now it makes me kinda worried about the other reasons why the fluid levels would be high. It is obviously not due to high sugar levels.
Here are the results of my 3 hour GTT:
Fasting: 80
1 Hour: 127
2 Hour: 114
3 Hour: 78
My highest was still well within the normal ranges. So, no sugar problems there.
But now, I also find out that my hemoglobin (iron) is low. The range is 11.5-15 and mine is 9. So, not super low, but low. It is just one more thing that has to be taken care of / monitored.
So, now I have to be put on an iron supplement. I am taking so many meds it is crazy.
But I am thrilled that I passed the 3 hour sugar test.
I had my first growth scan last week due to the marginal insertion of the cord. Growth was fine, but have high fluid. Doc said that the fluid level could be high due to high sugar levels. Since I had my sugar test the same day, he knew we would just have to wait for those results.
Well, I found out today that I passed - yipee!. But, now it makes me kinda worried about the other reasons why the fluid levels would be high. It is obviously not due to high sugar levels.
Here are the results of my 3 hour GTT:
Fasting: 80
1 Hour: 127
2 Hour: 114
3 Hour: 78
My highest was still well within the normal ranges. So, no sugar problems there.
But now, I also find out that my hemoglobin (iron) is low. The range is 11.5-15 and mine is 9. So, not super low, but low. It is just one more thing that has to be taken care of / monitored.
So, now I have to be put on an iron supplement. I am taking so many meds it is crazy.
But I am thrilled that I passed the 3 hour sugar test.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
27 Week OB Appointment
I am starting to hate going to the OB office. Every time I go there, I get yet another thing that has to be monitored.
So, here is the run-down of the appointment today. It was a marathon appointment, with my repeat 3 hour glucose test, growth scan due to the marginal insertion of the cord, and my first 3rd tri appointment. What? Did I just say 3rd trimester??? Yipee.
Weight - Lost 3 pounds. Yikes. I have to go back and look at all of the ups and downs, but I know that this basically means that I have yet to gain any weight. I am pretty sure I am now less than I was at my first OB appointment. I always ask not to know the actual number, just want to know how much I am up or down. The doc is not concerned at all, especially since I am no skinny minny.
Blood Pressure - just fine at 110/80. Even though my norm is 110/70, she said it was fine.
Growth Scan - um, yeah - I got a big fatty on my hands. No issue with growth restriction there. At 27 weeks, I am currently measuring at 27W6D. That is almost a week ahead. The baby weighs 2 lbs 9 ozs. WHAT!?!?!?!? That means I could have a linebacker on my hands. Frank was over 10 pounds at birth. Yikes!!!
I got to see the baby and got some great 3D shots, maybe I will add one to this post when I scan them. The tech said that I got great pics because there was so much fluid - which I guess makes great pics. I hear lots of fluid = good thing.
NOT!
I meet with the doc after the scan and he says that while he is not concerned about the growth at this point, the fluid is very high. OK, so extra fluid = bad thing.
He said that sometimes, if a woman has Gestational Diabetes, that it could cause extra fluid in the sac. I won't get my blood work results until next week. He said that there could be other reasons, but said that he would not go into them until we get the sugar tests back.
Must.Stay.Away.From.Google.
Google is a scary place. So, I have to go back in 2 weeks to check the fluid levels and at that time they will determine if my next growth scan will be 1 or 2 weeks after that one. They have to have 3-4 weeks in between growth scans. So, yes - I will basically be spending my life at the docs.
Oh yeah, and did I mention (yes, I know I did) - HELLO THIRD TRIMESTER!!!!!!!!
So, here is the run-down of the appointment today. It was a marathon appointment, with my repeat 3 hour glucose test, growth scan due to the marginal insertion of the cord, and my first 3rd tri appointment. What? Did I just say 3rd trimester??? Yipee.
Weight - Lost 3 pounds. Yikes. I have to go back and look at all of the ups and downs, but I know that this basically means that I have yet to gain any weight. I am pretty sure I am now less than I was at my first OB appointment. I always ask not to know the actual number, just want to know how much I am up or down. The doc is not concerned at all, especially since I am no skinny minny.
Blood Pressure - just fine at 110/80. Even though my norm is 110/70, she said it was fine.
Growth Scan - um, yeah - I got a big fatty on my hands. No issue with growth restriction there. At 27 weeks, I am currently measuring at 27W6D. That is almost a week ahead. The baby weighs 2 lbs 9 ozs. WHAT!?!?!?!? That means I could have a linebacker on my hands. Frank was over 10 pounds at birth. Yikes!!!
I got to see the baby and got some great 3D shots, maybe I will add one to this post when I scan them. The tech said that I got great pics because there was so much fluid - which I guess makes great pics. I hear lots of fluid = good thing.
NOT!
I meet with the doc after the scan and he says that while he is not concerned about the growth at this point, the fluid is very high. OK, so extra fluid = bad thing.
He said that sometimes, if a woman has Gestational Diabetes, that it could cause extra fluid in the sac. I won't get my blood work results until next week. He said that there could be other reasons, but said that he would not go into them until we get the sugar tests back.
Must.Stay.Away.From.Google.
Google is a scary place. So, I have to go back in 2 weeks to check the fluid levels and at that time they will determine if my next growth scan will be 1 or 2 weeks after that one. They have to have 3-4 weeks in between growth scans. So, yes - I will basically be spending my life at the docs.
Oh yeah, and did I mention (yes, I know I did) - HELLO THIRD TRIMESTER!!!!!!!!
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
His mom is a piece of work....
So, my husband and I have decided not to do face to face meetings with Lil J's mom anymore. I will continue to drop him off at the CPS office, but the aide will come out to my car and get Lil J. She will also bring him to my car after the visit.
We thought this was best because his mother has become very demanding on me and has basically been mean to me. So, since I am not required to have a face to face with her, I am not doing it anymore. Plus, it gives me a minute to talk to the aide alone to discuss anything that happened during the visit.
Well, I am SO glad that I did not do a face to face today.
When I dropped him off, the aide said that his mom is mad that we are not doing face to face anymore, so the aide reminded her that face to face is NOT the norm.
When she brought him back, she said that now the mom was mad her HER. Of course I needed more details on that one. Well, the aide asked Lil J if he had gone swimming yet. Well, before J could answer, the mom yelled "He better not have!"
She was pissed that J went "swimming" in a baby pool with less than a foot of water. And that she told the case worker of her concerns about the water. These concerns were told to me also by the case worker and by his mom herself.
I previously told her that I am very careful around the water and that J would always be very well supervised and I would never let him in a larger pool by himself
Well, the mom went on and on how she would tell a judge that he is not allowed in a pool, and that her wishes MUST be followed. Um, yeah - OK, you mean tell a judge when you don't show up for court again.
Besides...in NJ, the summer temp can easily get to 100 degrees, he should never go swimming, or wading in a pool??
Yes, she is concerned that he will drown, but so am I. Yes, I know - NO ONE ever intends to drown, and it is usually an accident that no one knew would happen. But, I would do everything in my power to have that not happen.
So, in the end - I am VERY glad we did not do that face to face today.
We thought this was best because his mother has become very demanding on me and has basically been mean to me. So, since I am not required to have a face to face with her, I am not doing it anymore. Plus, it gives me a minute to talk to the aide alone to discuss anything that happened during the visit.
Well, I am SO glad that I did not do a face to face today.
When I dropped him off, the aide said that his mom is mad that we are not doing face to face anymore, so the aide reminded her that face to face is NOT the norm.
When she brought him back, she said that now the mom was mad her HER. Of course I needed more details on that one. Well, the aide asked Lil J if he had gone swimming yet. Well, before J could answer, the mom yelled "He better not have!"
She was pissed that J went "swimming" in a baby pool with less than a foot of water. And that she told the case worker of her concerns about the water. These concerns were told to me also by the case worker and by his mom herself.
I previously told her that I am very careful around the water and that J would always be very well supervised and I would never let him in a larger pool by himself
Well, the mom went on and on how she would tell a judge that he is not allowed in a pool, and that her wishes MUST be followed. Um, yeah - OK, you mean tell a judge when you don't show up for court again.
Besides...in NJ, the summer temp can easily get to 100 degrees, he should never go swimming, or wading in a pool??
Yes, she is concerned that he will drown, but so am I. Yes, I know - NO ONE ever intends to drown, and it is usually an accident that no one knew would happen. But, I would do everything in my power to have that not happen.
So, in the end - I am VERY glad we did not do that face to face today.
Friday, June 26, 2009
Meet Torshia
We have a new member in our family. I would like you to meet Torshia - pronounced Tour - Share - but without the "r" sound. Or, maybe like Tour SHH ai (as in air). I am just assuming it would be spelt Torshia, how else would you spell that???
Anyway. Lil J really really likes yarn. My mother loves to crochet, and one day she was at our house and Lil J was fascinated with the yarn. He also loves spools of thread. I am just assuming that he has never seen it and it is new and cool to him.
My mother always has tons of this in her "bag" and he is just drawn to it. He just does not like the yarn, but the length of it and how it sways, etc.
So, my mother thought it would be cute to make him an octopus and have the legs be really long and have longer "tails" on it. It took her just a few minutes, so it was not really a big deal.
She gave it to him on Sunday and he thought it was funny, but really did not pay much attention to it. My 6 month old niece loved it and Lil J got a kick out of waving it in front of her face.
The thing is as ugly as ugly can get, is a total strangulation hazard, and serves no purpose. Well, she loved it. Maybe it is the super creepy face that my mother added.
We brought it home and all of a sudden, Lil J LOVES the thing. He carries it around all day, asked to sleep with it, and when asked what the name was, he named it Torshia. He has repeated it SEVERAL times the exact same way, I have no idea where it came from. But, that is the name of the octopus. And, yes, he can say octopus.
So, just thought I would share some pics of Torshia, as you can see, it is super ugly, has a creepy face, and is just overall WEIRD.
But, who am I to say what he can and can not love. Oh, and I also included a pic of Lil J - well, at least one I can actually share. That is how he walked around all day today :)
Anyway. Lil J really really likes yarn. My mother loves to crochet, and one day she was at our house and Lil J was fascinated with the yarn. He also loves spools of thread. I am just assuming that he has never seen it and it is new and cool to him.
My mother always has tons of this in her "bag" and he is just drawn to it. He just does not like the yarn, but the length of it and how it sways, etc.
So, my mother thought it would be cute to make him an octopus and have the legs be really long and have longer "tails" on it. It took her just a few minutes, so it was not really a big deal.
She gave it to him on Sunday and he thought it was funny, but really did not pay much attention to it. My 6 month old niece loved it and Lil J got a kick out of waving it in front of her face.
The thing is as ugly as ugly can get, is a total strangulation hazard, and serves no purpose. Well, she loved it. Maybe it is the super creepy face that my mother added.
We brought it home and all of a sudden, Lil J LOVES the thing. He carries it around all day, asked to sleep with it, and when asked what the name was, he named it Torshia. He has repeated it SEVERAL times the exact same way, I have no idea where it came from. But, that is the name of the octopus. And, yes, he can say octopus.
So, just thought I would share some pics of Torshia, as you can see, it is super ugly, has a creepy face, and is just overall WEIRD.
But, who am I to say what he can and can not love. Oh, and I also included a pic of Lil J - well, at least one I can actually share. That is how he walked around all day today :)
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Court Today
Obviously, I can't go in to too many details. But, court went well and the Judge was THRILLED that Lil J was represented by his foster parent. I guess even though foster parents are entitled to be there, most do not show up, some only submit a letter, some just leave it up to the case worker.
The mom's attorney was going to use this court date to ask to have him moved, so you know DAMN sure I was going to be there.
I submitted a letter and attached some pics and the judge was impressed that I put so much thought into the letter and liked that I included photos.
The letter included any issues that Lil J had when he first arrived and how we were working on those issues. I also included things like what he does during the day, that he is a joy, gets along with my 14 yr old, transition is going well, and if the case went to adoption that we would LOVE to have him as a legal family member.
I knew there was a possiblilty that I would not be allowed in the courtroom for long, maybe just to make a statement. But, I was allowed in there for the whole 6.5 minuite "hearing" - I will explain in a minute.
Some funny/awkward/bizzare things happened today.
1 - I got there about an hour early, the court house is about an hour away and with morning traffic it could take MUCH longer, so I gave myself plenty of time.
I pull into a parking space and hear a knock on my window.......it is his mother!!! Holy crap, how do I not talk to her for the next hour. I start to freak out. Yes, I have met the mother before, yada yada yada, but I did not want to be in conversation with her until court. I said hello, etc and then when she looked away for a second, I pretended to answer my phone. Yeah, I know, bad - but whatever. She told me she had to find her attorney and I took that chance to move my car around the corner lol.
I had to move my car anyway because the spot I was in was only a 1 hour spot, and I knew we would be in there for more than that and I did not want to have to leave to feed the meter. Plus, I did not want her to come out and start chatting with me.
2 - There are several cases scheduled at the same time, so I knew it was possible that we would have to wait a while. So, all of a sudden, the mother comes up to me and the caseworker and says, "yeah, um - just got a phone call. I have to leave. I have an emergency that I have to take care of" Now, mind you - she has no car, and would need to walk to the train station and get a train. The trains are not like a subway, so she could be waiting for a while for the next train. Also - she lives about 3-4 hours by train from the court house.
So, whatever was so important, she LEFT!!!!! But, get this, she tells us this, but does not tell her attorney. So, when we were finally called in, the attorney had no idea she was not coming back.
What the Hell!!!???? But, the judge is apparently very pro-parent, so he marked her as absent with an excuse. Because she was there at the court time.
I don't know, maybe it is just me - but I would NOT have left. Expecially since your only mode of transportation is a train that you do not even have a schedule for. If you had a car, maybe. Or maybe if you were not so far away. But, also - if it was a TRUE emergency, wouldn't you have told your attorney first????
So, because mom could not object to me being in the room, I was there for the whole thing.
Again, the Judge was happy that I was there, asked a few questions that the law guardian brought up, etc. Seriously, I spoke for about 30 seconds total. But, I am glad that I had the written statement :)
Next court date is um, my due date.....so I guess I will have to miss that one unless I deliver way early.
Oh - and the attorney did ask for the case to be moved and the judge said, OK, I will put the request in the file and will address it at another time.
So, overalll, it was a good day.
The mom's attorney was going to use this court date to ask to have him moved, so you know DAMN sure I was going to be there.
I submitted a letter and attached some pics and the judge was impressed that I put so much thought into the letter and liked that I included photos.
The letter included any issues that Lil J had when he first arrived and how we were working on those issues. I also included things like what he does during the day, that he is a joy, gets along with my 14 yr old, transition is going well, and if the case went to adoption that we would LOVE to have him as a legal family member.
I knew there was a possiblilty that I would not be allowed in the courtroom for long, maybe just to make a statement. But, I was allowed in there for the whole 6.5 minuite "hearing" - I will explain in a minute.
Some funny/awkward/bizzare things happened today.
1 - I got there about an hour early, the court house is about an hour away and with morning traffic it could take MUCH longer, so I gave myself plenty of time.
I pull into a parking space and hear a knock on my window.......it is his mother!!! Holy crap, how do I not talk to her for the next hour. I start to freak out. Yes, I have met the mother before, yada yada yada, but I did not want to be in conversation with her until court. I said hello, etc and then when she looked away for a second, I pretended to answer my phone. Yeah, I know, bad - but whatever. She told me she had to find her attorney and I took that chance to move my car around the corner lol.
I had to move my car anyway because the spot I was in was only a 1 hour spot, and I knew we would be in there for more than that and I did not want to have to leave to feed the meter. Plus, I did not want her to come out and start chatting with me.
2 - There are several cases scheduled at the same time, so I knew it was possible that we would have to wait a while. So, all of a sudden, the mother comes up to me and the caseworker and says, "yeah, um - just got a phone call. I have to leave. I have an emergency that I have to take care of" Now, mind you - she has no car, and would need to walk to the train station and get a train. The trains are not like a subway, so she could be waiting for a while for the next train. Also - she lives about 3-4 hours by train from the court house.
So, whatever was so important, she LEFT!!!!! But, get this, she tells us this, but does not tell her attorney. So, when we were finally called in, the attorney had no idea she was not coming back.
What the Hell!!!???? But, the judge is apparently very pro-parent, so he marked her as absent with an excuse. Because she was there at the court time.
I don't know, maybe it is just me - but I would NOT have left. Expecially since your only mode of transportation is a train that you do not even have a schedule for. If you had a car, maybe. Or maybe if you were not so far away. But, also - if it was a TRUE emergency, wouldn't you have told your attorney first????
So, because mom could not object to me being in the room, I was there for the whole thing.
Again, the Judge was happy that I was there, asked a few questions that the law guardian brought up, etc. Seriously, I spoke for about 30 seconds total. But, I am glad that I had the written statement :)
Next court date is um, my due date.....so I guess I will have to miss that one unless I deliver way early.
Oh - and the attorney did ask for the case to be moved and the judge said, OK, I will put the request in the file and will address it at another time.
So, overalll, it was a good day.
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