It was set, he was coming. We started making arrangements to the bedroom, already started the process to get him registered for school, already looked into summer options for him, etc
But, yesterday we got the call, we would only be a "last resort" home for him.
We knew his grandma lived in our town (small town too); but it turns out, his mother is living with the grandma. We actually ran into grandma at the grocery store last year when he was with us.
And, for reasons I can't get into, they feel it would be unsafe for him to be in our home considering that his mother lives 3-4 blocks away.
We totally understand, in fact - we would have a lot of restrictions on because of this, and would make a lot of modification to our shopping, etc. At 12, we would normally allow him to walk to a friends house, this would not even be a possibility
I would hate for his mother to see us in town and then follow us home.
They were OK with the Grandma in town, but not the mom.
Plus, since he is almost 100% sure going to adoption. And, they feel it would be hard for him to move on knowing that his mom lives 3 blocks away.
We are sad, we emotionally prepared for him to come. Colin is really disappointed, but understands.
We are not even being considered as a "last resort". I hope he does well in his new home.