They finally identified Lil J's bio father

This guy was scheduled to be tested in 2009.. He missed 3 different court ordered appointments.

The plan was that the court would just terminate all unknown fathers at the same time as they terminate his mother's rights.

After the 3rd no-show, it was said that they would not search him out again. Well, I guess since the case is leading to termination, they wanted to get 100% certainty that he is or is not the father.

Well, it came back that this 3rd guy is the father. This guy left bio mom when she was 6 months pregnant and was never seen again. He has the same issues that his bio mom has - so it is not like he can parent at this time.

The caseworker spoke to this guy before the test results and he said he *might* surrender his rights before a trial. But wants pictures, and maybe a phone call before he would decide.

I know they would not just *give* Lil J to him if he wanted to parent...that they would do background checks, and he would still have to follow some sort of plan.....but being totally selfish, I am hoping he just does a surrender.

This guy was with her from the begining of her pegnancy (and according to him about a year before), and then was with her until 6 months pregnant. So, it is not like he didn't know he had a (possible) kid. Even if there was the possibility of someone else, he left knowing it could very well be his. Never sought her out for the next 3-5 years either.

My caseworker is going to speaking to him shortly, I have already given her some pics to send him. So, I guess we wait.

On another note, Lil J's mom is still MIA. There was a brief message to my CWs supervisor in Dec. But, there has been no visits since Oct 27th.

I have the cutest "Model"

I am having a great time making these Ruffled Bloomers. Might be starting a little business - maybe a etsy shop, and selling at craft fairs as well. I have gotten some interest in these, so maybe I could make a little extra cash. Heck, every little bit helps being that I am a SAHM.

EDIT - I have started an Etsy Shop - called Giggle Worm

Of course, since I think the perfect age for these things are babies around Elsie's age, it makes perfect sense to use her to model them LOL. I am working on making a teeny tiny pattern just for newborns, since these might be a little too big for them.

I live in the boonies, but went to a fabric store about an hour away (the closest one outside of Walm.art) and it was like I walked into heaven. wow! It was fun to try to find coordinating patterns, colors, and prints.

Working on these are also helping me with one of my New Year's Resolutions - to get of the PC more (I know, as I blog haha). So, I have been crafting, cleaning, organizing, etc. I have found so many videos on fabric flowers, man they are addicting. I will have to post pics of just those.

So - now I just have to practice my photo skills, and you know, get much better lighting in my house. This way my sample pics will look better. I am actually going to get Lil J's pics taken for his birthday...maybe I will just slip Elsie in her bloomers for a few shots.

So, here are a few shots of some of my recent stuff. And, I will post a link to an etsy shop when I start one.

Is Expecting.......

I just put this as my facebook status:

Amy is: EXPECTING!! I know, I know it's crazy isn't it? I can't believe it myself. I wasn't going to put it on here because it's obvious but wanted to make it official. I mean who would have guessed that we are expecting!! Yup it's official. My family and Friends in New Jersey are expecting *sNoW* AGAIN today and tomorrow!!

OMG - could you imagine!?!?!?!?

I conceived Elsie when Cora was (around) Elsie's current age. NO WAY would I do it for another. That would be 2 under 2....Again, NO WAY.

Besides - that shop is closed. But, it totally totally totally freaked lots of people out LOL

More Ruffle Bloomers

We have yet another snow day here in NJ, so I made another ruffle bloomer. The two bloomers are totally different. I used wider ruffles this time and made a different hair thing. I am not sure which width I like the best, but I can tell you that I really do not like this hair flower thing. I think it is because the width is just too wide.

Plus, I get to show off pics of my cutie as well :)

Ruffle Bloomers

I have seen a few places that have ruffle bloomers for babies. In my head, I thought - "hey, that would be cute for a 1st b-day shoot" Yes, totally thinking ahead for Elsie. LOL

But, I thought maybe I could have their Valentine's Photos in these ruffle bloomers. BUT - I knew that if I played around with a pattern, that I could probably make them myself. It is just a bloomer and ruffles.

So, I bought some fabric in coordinating patterns and played around a bit. I made my own bloomer pattern based on a pair that Cora had. Then, figured out where I wanted to put the ruffles, and tada....ruffled bloomers.

I took the left over ruffles and just made a quick hair flower and attached it to a headband.

So so super cute!!! I think they both look super cute, in totally differnt ways lol

It is Jammie Time

Elsie is really starting to become a person. LOL But seriously. She is really starting to have some personality and really starting to giggle.

Here is our rendition of "Hammertime" If I need to explain that, then you are too young LOL. She also likes "I like big burps and I can not like"

Court Update

Don't get excited, this will be short. The update on our court date yesterday is that there was no court.

Our hearing was adjorned with no new date set. And, it was not adjorned for any good reason, just to lessen the caseload of the judge.

The thing that annoyed me the most is that I did not find out until I was at the courthouse for over an hour just waiting to be called. AND - it was cancelled the day before. My caseworker was not notified until the day of court, and was IN court all day. So, she really did not find out until she got back to the office during lunch.

Lil J's attorney did not know either. So, we were going to try to get "squeezed" in since everyone was there. Well, not everyone - since his mom was not there (no surprise there). So, I sat there for over an hour just waited to see if we would get called in. The answer: NO WAY

But, I did find out that we ARE on the calendar for mediation in Feb. Although that just means that we should have it in feb, but not that we have an actual date. I guess this was part of the previous court order - you know the ONLY court date that I missed. It was 2 days after Elsie was born.

So - if bio mom agrees to the mediation, then that will be in Feb. The fact that this case was adjorned has no bearing on the mediation, which is good.

So - I just wanted to give yet another non update