It went fine. I think it helps that our worker is about my age (a little younger) and super nice. I think it would be a lot harder if it was some old guy just drilling me with questions.
It took a little over 2 hours - a lot of what we talked about was stuff on the questionaire that we submitted last week. Which I answered honestly so there were some things that needed discusion. Nothing major - but things like how strict my dad was, and old very emotionally abusive boyfriend, a cousin who had domestic violence issue, stuff like that.
She also asked about Colin's father and what kind of relationship he had with him.
She asked how Frank and I met, what things we do together, things we have in common, what things make him a good guy, etc.
She also asked about our roles in the family - like who does what.
Like I said, I was honest on the questionaire, so I had no problem talking about stuff. Besides, everthing was such a long long time ago so it does not enter my mind on a daily basis.
My three m/c did come up - they just wanted to make sure that we are not using adoption as a replacement for that. And, that it is not something that we had not coped with. I guess if I broke down crying over it, they would suggest conseling or something.
Colin's was fine - super quick. She asked things about what he likes to do, how he would feel if someone went into his room, does he like you play with younger kids, how he is punished, how our relationship is, etc.
Oh - and most of our paperwork is coming in yay!
So far, this is what has been submited (and/or returned)
- Application
- Financial Forms
- Privacy Forms
- Preference Forms (what type of child we would accept placement of)
- Fingerprints done - results not yet returned
- Reference returned for a friend
- Reference returned for person from an agency (used my church)
- Medical Reference
- Work Reference (Frank's Job)
- School Reference (Colin)
- Background Police Check for Frank (Town #1)
- Family questionaire
Still waiting on:
- Police Checks for several towns (amy and frank)
- Reference from neighbor (what a surprise)
- Fingerprint results
I am sure there is more that has been submited, there is so much I kind of lost track.
Our worker will call us soon to make another (final) appointment with us at which time our house will be looked at with a fine tooth comb. This visit has to be within a certain time frame before licensing comes to do the final home inspection. And with Christmas right around the corner - it might be after Christmas that she comes back. Since we are waiting on other stuff to come back anyway.
But, she told me that if that other stuff comes back asap, then she will try to make her last appointment with me asap.
And - it is out of my control how long it takes for the paperwork comes back - so who know. I am just hoping it is sooner than later :)
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