So, I guess it is easiest to answer the question here so that many know the story.
I did blog about this a long time ago, here are the links:
19 & pregnant and 19 & pregnant (cont)
Long story short:
~ Lost my virginity at 19 to a long term boyfriend.
~ Broke up with said boyfriend 2 days after "the deed"
~ Started hanging out with a guy - friends at first for a few months
~ Guy convinced me that sex was no big deal
~ 3 weeks later I am knocked up
~ Guy breaks up with me the day I tell him I am pregnant
~ Raised my son as a single mom for 11 years at which point I marry my husband
~ Started TTC when I was 32 yrs old. I am now 34 years old
Trust me - I think about it each and every day. How is it that I was able to get pregnant, probably within a week of my first intimate relationship (don't count guy #1) and now I am having such a hard time.
Of course things like age, weight, etc obviously factor into the mix. But, come on!?!? How many teen moms do you know that have trouble later on. I don't know any.
I do find it annoying that I get pregnant with a 100% loser with no problem and the man that I love to death and want to have a baby with, I can't. And just a FYI - my husband has NO fertility issues. He is 100% perfect. We also both had genetic testing done and we are BOTH fine.
I am pretty much an open book, so no question will really ever offend me - please ask away.
If you would like me you expand on anything, just ask.
You can see how totally young I was in this pic. Colin was probably 2 and a 1/2 or so?? And yes, I know I look about 12 yrs old.
I know I leave comments all the time...sorry. Just wanted to let you know that my BFF had a completely normal pregnancy...now has a 4 year old...and can't stay pregnant. She has miscarried 4 times since her first was born. Secondary Infertility...it hits alot of women. If you want to read her blog it's http://talkingtummies.blogspot.com/
ReplyDeleteMight want to check mine out too if you haven't...I'm right there with you on the staying pregnant front...
I wish I had advice to offer, instead all I can offer is my heartfelt thoughts and prayers for you and YH.
ReplyDeleteJackie
Thank you for sharing and being so open, especially at such a difficult time.
ReplyDeleteOur bodies really are a miracle and a mystery.
Does your RE give any insight as to why you are having problems this time around?
I just wanted to give you a hug. You are a strong woman and a good mom to Colin. Hang in there Amy!
ReplyDeletejust wanted to give you hugs. i often think about the same thing, although I gave birth to Landon 14 months ago, we started TTC after my 6 week post-part appt. and here we are 13 months of trying with 2 miscarriages and it's not looking good for this month either. it doesn't make sense!!
ReplyDeletehugs again!!
erica
Don't mean to offend with this question, and let me know if I do...
ReplyDeleteHave your or DH been tested for chromosomal abnormalities? I'm sorry I don't remember all the tests you've had done, but I believe you had a loss due to Trisomy. I just wish I had some good advice for you. The only thing I can say is to keep your hope going strong...I had three losses in 12 months and I'm now 24 weeks along with a very healthy baby boy. Still pray every day that he stays strong, but this is the farthest I've ever been pregnant.
Like you, I have a son (he'll be 3 next month) and we too are having trouble TTC #2 - DH is 100% fine here as well...it's all me. High FSH and Diminished Ovarian Reserve (I'm as premenopausal as a 40-year old Dr. said...I'm 31).
ReplyDeleteI will continue to pray for you and want you to know I will be thinking about you and wish you the best!